1.Assuming
That A Woman's Attraction To A Man Is Based On Physical Appearance
Looks aren't as important to women as they are to men. In fact, looks are much
less important to women than almost all men think looks are. So get this
through your ego: your issues about how you look are all in your head.
Look at it this way: no one can convince you that a girl is hot if she isn't
hot to you. No matter how "hot" she's supposed to be - or how hot
other people think she is - if you aren't attracted to her, you aren't
attracted to her. And there is very little she, or anyone else, can say to
convince you to have sex with her. (Never get so desperate or drunk that you'll
sleep with a girl you're not attracted to!) Now, if she goes to the gym, gets a
great body, invests in some sexy clothes, puts on some seductive makeup and
learns how to use her body sexually... well! Let me tell you that puts things
into a new perspective.
Women make their mating decisions based on emotion, feelings and inner
intuition. Not reason. Definitely just looks. Where men often just look, women
use a whole gamut of values and indicators, all of which are internal and
intrinsic to the man himself. Often these are simply taken for granted by a
woman, not consciously considered.
Humans can get caught up in the assumption that most everyone else weighs and
judges most things exactly the same way they do. We go through life looking at
things primarily from our own perspective, after all. So it's really no
surprise when people make the mistake of imposing their own values on someone
else's point of view: Why isn't everyone vegetarian? Why isn't purple
everyone's favorite color? Why don't men really understand what women are
saying?
The key difference is that women aren't turned on by the same triggers that men
are (women don't really care if you wear sexy makeup and lingerie). They are
turned on by different indicators. Mainly they are character, strength, and
perceived value. These indicators are demonstrated (and enhanced) by certain
behaviors (confidence, proactive actions, fun) that a man can learn.
Unfortunately, society has taught men that they need to be polite,
"nice," and practically sycophantic to attract women. (So not true!)
As a result, many men will try to attract a woman by buying her gifts and
dinners and stuff for a short time; by acting just like a listening, attentive
puppy dog and one of her girlfriends.
In fact, many men actually try to build attraction to a woman by showing her
what a good boyfriend he would be. The sad thing is that this "would
be" boyfriend actually reflects who you are, because you're walking on
eggshells all the time. Why not just put your best self forward? More on that
later.
When this doesn't work for them, men start to ask "Why?" or
"What is it that women want?" This is usually the point where they
start trying to convince the woman "B-but I'm good!" (Which only
makes it worse.) Guys can then think "Well, I want a woman who's hot, so
women want a man who's hot. They don't want me. So I must be ugly." Wrong
again.
This usually hurts guys more than it helps. (Honestly? It doesn't help at all.)
Most guys think they're intrinsically ugly, in some way. So they don't even
bother going to the gym, grooming, or buying nice clothes. None of which could
actually solve the problem by itself for some of them.
I can't count the times when men failed to approach a woman even when the
situation was completely in their favor - because they felt they were "not
good enough." Or they thought the woman would reject them based on their
looks. Men are so focused on how they look to women, that they think women will
see them the exact same way. Too often, this is just a stalling tactic men use,
trying to find any way to avoid approaching. (More on that, later.) When a man
first approaches a woman, she will judge him solely on his looks and how he
presents himself.
What else does she have to judge? It's only 5 seconds. (Again: she only uses
his looks as a method of determining if he has character, strength, and value.)
Again, something interesting happens to a woman when she begins interacting
with a man. And it's usually right after the first 5 or 10 seconds. She begins
to feel him out. And from that feeling, she will automatically feel a man's
character, strength, and value.
In fact, a woman will begin to perceive a man who makes her feel this way - as
having the described characteristics - as more physically attractive. Think
about how women describe their close friends, the men they feel are the best
they can possibly be. Any man who a woman feels close to - and cares about
becomes "attractive" to her. This is why you can be constantly set up
with fat, hairy, sub-par Sally! Sally may not be attractive to you, but she is
considered "pretty" to your female friend. Your friend has perceived
the "value" of dear sub-par Sally. So, because of how she
"feels" about her dear friend Sally, she believes Sally is an
attractive "catch". No matter that the hair has thinned so much that
you can see the entire scalp, growing with hair in lethal growths on her
cheeks, all three chins and bingo arms. Your gal-pal knows (thinks) Sally is a
beautiful person. (And you're just a mutton-headed typical male bore, for not
seeing it yourself!) Now, imagine that an attractive (smokin' hot), intelligent
(never shy, ever), emotionally healthy (not a clingy leach), energetic (loves to
have sex (with you!)) woman has attached "value" to you! Are you
starting to see the value of value?
Regardless of whether you're rich or poor, good looking or plain, fat or
skinny, bald or have a thick head of hair; if you can master the art of projecting
a quality energy that women can feel... you can light up a woman's primal
attraction circuitry like a Christmas tree! This is great news for you, because
"amplifying your quality energy" is an easily attainable skill that
can take you from being a complete failure with women, to being a regular rock
star. Mr. Holy S&*T, I want her!!!
2. Hiding Your Sexual Intentions And Pretending To Be A Woman's "Friend" When women first meet, they tend to huddle in a corner and see how many times they can say "me too." Women bond by revealing information to each other. This brings them closer together and creates a bonding relationship akin to friendship. Meaning, non-sexual companionship. Hear what I'm saying? I'm saying, you've got to stop acting like a friend if you want her to see you as a boyfriend. Do you really want her to think of you as friendship material? NO!!! You want her to think of you as boyfriend material. So start acting like a boyfriend instead of her lesbian best friend. Be bold, be decisive, state your opinions, don't walk on eggshells with her and definitely don't put her on a pedestal. A lot of men make the mistake of thinking that if they show a woman that they have similar experiences, or that they just like to talk and listen, they will be “accepted” by a woman. Her eyes will miraculously be opened to this guy who is “not like all those other jerks.” Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. What really happens is the woman starts thinking of the guy as “just one of her girlfriends.” Someone she’s never really sleeping with. So instead of hiding your intentions and pretending to be a woman’s friend, put your intentions out there and start asking for what you want. I want to show you some examples of conversation styles. 1st is an example of the way a friend would talk to a woman. The second is an example of a charming/leading man I would be attracted to. Example of a friendship conversation: "Oh wow! I had the same thing in my last relationship. My ex was totally selfish and had no regard for my opinion when making decisions. I remember this time when..." Example of a charming/leading conversation: "I've had my ups and downs in relationships, but each time I learn something new and I gain more patience. Make eye contact, soft smile so what are we going to order? I bet you're a meat eater. A little information + lots of confidence = sex appeal! The trick is to get her talking. As a good rule of thumb, she should be talking about 3 times as much as you are. I call this the "25/75 rule" in the wing girl method. Without making it sound like a job interview (you're not "grilling" her), ask her questions that get her talking. Everyone's favorite subject is themselves, and you'll always get more if you ask what she's talking about about something "How does she feel", if you ask what she "thinks" about it. If you like what she's saying, laugh and tease her a little. Avoid talking completely. Instead, lead the conversation in a fun direction; into something that interests you and helps you interest her. Instead of talking about yourself, try talking about a movie or music. A hot topic can be fun too; abortion or women's rights, relationships in general or any kind of current event. And, most importantly, don't let "rules" get in the way. If you're both talking 50% of the time and it's working, there's good rapport, good connection and she's enjoying herself... don't try to back it up, just to have a rule to follow. Remember, this is a good rule of thumb, not a constitutional amendment. Some important pitfalls, to avoid: Don't be dismissive. When you're completely "throwing up" on women, don't be dismissive. If you want to reduce the amount of flack, don't disregard what she says and move on. Ask her questions to see if you're interested and comment on what she's saying, but only if you really want to. If you don't, the conversation won't be natural, and you're going to look needy. Like a potential friend, not a lover. If the topic doesn't interest you, steer her to another topic. Don't talk about your past relationships. Unless you have hot things to say. (Not too hot.) It's just that complaining about past relationships is a very pompous thing to do. It can come off as a guy, and doesn't make you come off as strong. It's better to just say that you "learned something different" from every exceptional woman in your past. As a man, if you reveal too much too soon and throw yourself at her emotionally, you'll wind up straight in the friend zone. Avoid excessive "revealing" and you'll improve your success rate We will see.
3. Thinking You Are More Insecure Than Him – Wrong Women often have an idealistic aim to be the “perfect” woman. Our goal is to be seen as that cool girl who is different and more special than all other women. We try to appear as the woman who is fun, light and free of all insecurities. Because of this, we often keep our lips sealed on needs, desires and frustrations. But, just like men, we have experiences in our lives that have shaped us into who we are today. We may have been hurt, we may have been taken advantage of, we may be shy or we may not have learned how to appreciate ourselves. Just because a woman is attractive, does not necessarily mean she is confident. In fact, it often means the opposite. It is true that it is easier for a woman to have sex than it is for a man. A woman may be able to walk into a room and immediately get a man to agree to have sex with her. But, she won’t be able to find a good man with a genuine, authentic character who respects her. Just like a lot of guys don’t know how to attract women, a lot of women don’t know how to get the kind of man they want. Attractive women are urged to have sex from a very young age, causing them to have a distorted view of relationships that can quickly develop into insecurities and mental blocks. A lot of guys go into a conversation with a woman, somehow thinking she’s some “super confident cold-blooded machine” with all the power. This mindset leads guys to be overly harsh and often plain, outright rude. This causes the woman to meet more and more obstacles… and the situation worsens. This is one of the most common problems guys run into. Women misunderstand guys’ intentions. And again, neither party is happy. Understand that you’re not the only one with anxious, jumbled thoughts running through your head. Women experience the exact same thing. If you can show a woman that you get her insecurities, and that you like her, she will melt them instantly. Understand this secret and you will be miles ahead of all the other guys out there.
4. Assuming All Women Are Evil And Only Out To Trick, Hurt And Manipulate You As a woman, I'm appalled by the amount of instances I see guys project their horrible revelations onto all women with one woman. I regularly see my male friends project their horrible revelations onto all women each time they get rejected - or get irritated at another woman. They will swear that "all women are evil" after which treat in any other case excellent women, who have been warmth and honest, with vitriol and indignation. You need to consider that women are excellent, because of the fact that we are. Say a person has been harmed. Some woman may have additionally handled him poorly and he broke his heart, because of the fact that neither of them were speaking properly. That man will guard tightly to his indignation and turn each destiny sour. This is fast music for loneliness and despair. But you can't preserve any beyond revelation in opposition to all the very best ladies you'll meet. You're smarter than that, and you also need relationships that can be nearly joyful and fulfilling. To do that, you need to remove any bad stereotypes you preserve in opposition to ladies, as right now. Because, my friend, the more divisions you create, the harder it will be to connect with ladies. You need to be unfettered in order to build fantastic relationships, if you're going to get the ladies you need. Just as ladies want to analyze that guys are excellent, you need to consider that ladies are excellent. They're simply different, that's all. And because of the fact that they're different – and they don't recognize their behavior – humans can extend bad feelings toward ladies. We ladies are simply different. Well, different. You must transcend any bad ideals and return your thoughts about women to a realm in which you see them as beautiful, attractive, desirable, and sexy. You must see them that way, interior and outside. Women as a set have done you no wrong. Women are fabulous and very good. They need a warm, loving, deep courting, with a person just like you! You were given to recognize and consider that for a fact, right all the way down to your core, if you ever need to understand seduction. 5. Women Test Men For Sport. They Don't. They "Test" Because They're Insecure Here's a secret maximum men don't recognize: Contrary to famous belief, women don't take a look at guys for sport. They take a look at guys because of their insecurities. Don't panic if a woman asks you a query that you believe is designed to test you. This "take a look" is just a symptom of some lack of confidence, which is interior her. Nothing to do with you. That is, nervousness, except you. A lot of fellas get irritated or shielded in the event that they assume a woman is trying them out. Attempt to mention some "proper" thing, to put her in her place. (So wrong.) In fact, a lot of fellas will start messing up in the event that they assume a woman is trying them out. Even if she's no longer. This is one of the maximum adverse misconceptions "pick-up artist" experts have instilled in people. "PUA" experts taught guys that women like power to make guys "go through hoops", and in order to somehow get away with it, guys do the paintings for them. In reality, maximum women simply need assurance that they are no longer being manipulated or set up to harm themselves. Many women, in fact, don't even consciously understand that they "take a look at a person" once they do. They will actually act in a positive way to feign interest or guard themselves or to keep time. They are gambling a latent problem that has nothing to do with you, and that problem will leave if treated properly. The trick is to live emotionally. Respond to her, though don't alternate your internal country because of what she's saying. Women can smell nervousness, and it certainly doesn't flip us.
6: Falling Into “The Friend Zone” And Wondering Have you ever heard this story about the almost wimpy guy who fell in love with a stunning woman – who failed to even recognize that he existed as a sexual being – for many years? Well, what it became: He targeted all his interest in this one woman; lavishing attention on her almost boyfriends, going shopping with her, crying on her shoulder and being there for her at every opportunity he wished her to be. (Such a wonderful little puppy.) He became so targeted in this one woman, that he completely abandoned all the different potential girls who could possibly want him as a man. Because he became absolutely certain, that one day, she might come round. Well, guess he eventually did! And he failed to actually mention anything. One day, after some "terrible jerk" had dumped her, the woman completely went up to her wimpy pal and said, "OMG, why didn't I even notice you before? You are exactly what I need, and the facility usually wished for. You need to recognize that you haven't heard this story in real life? Because it would not unfold like this in real life! And it would not unfold like this anyway. Now this is not how appeal works. Using submission and being a touch sycophantic is a diffused shape of manipulation. Trying to generate appeal in this manner will usually fail. If you really need to, don't attempt to be a "pal". You were given to be busy taking the stairs to be a slut to be a slut. And stop watching romantic comedies for recommendations on seduction! 7: Acting Like A Dirt-Bag To Get The Woman (Girls Don't Need Awful Guys!) It appears that a person Starts spreading a rumor to the people of the world, that girls are certainly not interested in being with a pleasing man. I additionally believe that it turned out to be a burdened woman who started that rumor. I need to inform you, now, that that is absolute bullshit. That's right. I said: Bullshit!!!! (I use very strong language in private.) Think approximately logically to say this: "Women don't need extraordinary guys. They need to put up with awful guys." Do you certainly consider that girls take a seat down round and say to every different "Oh Sally, I can't wait till the day I can meet an a**hole who treats me poorly, is unreliable, by no means returns his telesalesmartphone calls and won't believe me on a every day basis." In the direction they don't say that... however then again, they fall for jerks, don't they? Every day you notice amazing, smart girls, with jerk-bag men who treat them poorly. And you can't identify why they are with such obviously a**holes. Why aren't those girls broke, or in need of a higher man? It makes you start considering the rumors. "Women have to put up with "awful guys", jerks and a**holes." Women have to behave poorly." I can tell you for a fact, now, that girls no longer need to put up with horrible guys, jerks and a**holes. Women need to be handled like grownup human beings, who are liked for the characteristics they bring to a relationship. "Confident belittling" is definitely not on a woman's wish-list. In fact, girls are put off by "horrible boys" due to the fact that they see many of the developments that some "horrible boys" have, unwittingly, and mistake guys' developments for the developments they really need. They mistake toughness as power, arrogance as self assurance, and belligerent dominating as dominance. All, absolutely wrong. Strength of character, personal integrity, and self assurance are all developments I can teach you. I can also show you a way to observe guys' developments, so that you can generate real appeal from first-rate girls. So you can have relationships Can please, as long as you need them to. The fact is that girls need to be with extraordinary men. Simply, the proper kind of extraordinary man. An extraordinary man, with a hard edge.
8: Women Want What You Think They Want, Not What They Want "Women need a strong man who has the right to be a man or woman and has great value." As such, they no longer need a man who: 1. Wants to be mothered. A man who wants to be a mother does not put forth the developments that cause a woman's enchantment. He is not strong. He expects her to come and pat him on the back and put him on the baby. Not sexy. And honestly is no longer going to physically move the difference forward. (A man who wants to be a mother must be an excellent father, right?) 2. Is needy and dependent. A needy, estranged man is, in fact, a drag. He is virtually no longer strong and has very little value, due to the fact that he contributes almost nothing to the connection. He voluntarily searches for approval, however no longer takes an active management position that will likely only gain the woman. Not having the lifestyle in the women he dates is a huge sign that a man is needy and established. 3. Has no backbone and can be walked all over. A man who has no backbone and can be walked all over is clearly susceptible, due to the fact that he does not display the exact male or female or self experience. Epic flip off. Has the position of "backbone" for his self and his friends, and now no longer allows men to take advantage of both. A woman will see that trait as sexy, due to the fact that she will be able to experience safe and protected round. 4. Is no longer positive or beat. A man who is not brilliant is not helpful in any way. Being poor and pessimistic is an outright display of weak point and powerlessness; terrible developments that are not appealing to a woman, at all. Being competitive and abrasive is also a trait of negativity. They suggest a man who is oversensitive and unhappy. 5. Can't handle stress. A man who can't take care of anxiety is oversensitive. Weakness, as you may have already heard, simply doesn't flip girls. I'm no longer able to carry pounds of mass, here. A skinny guy can be just as masculine and commanding as a muscle-sur-rat, if he wishes to be. I'm speaking almost capotential, to address changed circumstances, sudden symptoms, and capotential set-backs-that would likely make you panic-with a clear head and a peaceful demeanor. That's sexy! 6. Can't understand women. Women can't be interested in a guy who holds them no longer, a guy who doesn't address her insecurities and hidden desires well or a guy who doesn't recognize the way she's paying attention to what she's simply accentuating. Important note: You're probably accentuating in terms of your experience, because she wants to keep it all to herself, not herself. Try to see what she's accentuating from the factor of her scene. Don't make the error of 'no longer even' taking what she's accentuating to be true - what it is - just because you were seeing that you hold her higher than she holds you higher. You may even hold her higher, but don't trust her, and in a way push aside what she's simply accentuating. Women hate that. 7. Not active. (Doesn't express anything that is in the table.) A guy who is not active is like a needy and established being. Even if he is no longer needy, and has a lifestyle of the outsider of the connection, if he no longer contributes to the connection/interplay; no longer knows that he is invested, or cares nearly the route the connection is taking, he may not cause a preference in a woman. If he is already a courting and turns into complacent and lazy, the woman will simply become infatuated with him. She will start getting snippy on almost everything he does, due to the fact that he has diminished, in her eyes. 8. Too nice or too angry. We went into a bit of the "don't throw compliments at girls" section with this one, however it is important to recognize that no longer should a guy be handsome, no longer throw masses of records at girls, he additionally should no longer shower lots of compliments on girls. Why? A lot of guys think they can appeal to a woman by way of demonstrating that they are "exceptionally good" and smart, etc. The trouble is, if a guy starts out by obsessing over consciousness, by excessively focusing on demonstrating that man or woman he can't reveal strength, or any of the opposite traits besides, that a lot of guys have. That simply signals a guy to be a terrible man or woman and of occasional value. He simply won't be of the terrible man or woman - and a woman won't think of it in the phrases of a man or woman - however she does get excited with him. She will then both push him away, push him into the friend zone, or possibly worst of all - use him for all the clothing advantage she'll be able to get, after which do away with him. Now I'm not saying "that's not good by any means" or that you shouldn't buy cases for a girl, I'm simply saying that you need to preserve a consistency amongst all of the typical traits that a woman is asking for. 9: Thinking That Women Experience Attraction The Way That Men Do. Wrong!! So, do you need to feel a way to make a woman feel “maximally feminine”? (Which is at the very coronary heart of her appeal to you?) You get a woman to feel her maximum feminine self through leading. “Leading” through drawing a woman into her global perspective to take charge. Leading is the integration of the wholeness we’ve mentioned so far; it’s a sign of miles of strength, character, and value. “Leading” allows a woman to lower her defenses and truly feel understood like a woman. A woman no longer needs to be with another woman, she desires to be with a man. A man who could make her feel understood like a woman. That’s the most important factor of all. As a woman, I revel in a heightened experience of appeal after feeling understood like my maximum feminine self. When I am with a man and I must take on the masculine role (due to the fact that they have left their management to me), the appeal is shot. For example: when being approached, if a man comes as close as me and starts speaking, after which I am expected to take the lead with a verbal exchange…attraction. Another example: if a man asks me on a date after which says; “So what do you need to do?” Ugh!!! Stop. As a woman, I do not need to step into the masculine role. I no longer need to invite a man over. I no longer need to instigate the primary kiss. I no longer need to invite him for a second date. I need to be a woman, and women don’t do that. You may imagine that women are lazy and no longer inclined to contribute anything, however this is the way of the mile. Realizing and knowing that this is a step towards coping with the mile. A woman no longer goes out with a man, looking at him to inform him in which direction she wants to move and what she wants to do. She expects him to have a plan after which to guide her along the path he has purposed. When you are out on the town with your friends, pulling a woman into your world and "leading" her into your plans for the night and seducing her as well. Not the other way around. This does not mean "no longer paying attention to her" or no longer taking her wants and desires into account... you should always deal with her like a human being. Simply, don't treat her like she matters, now "the leader." Let me come up with a brief example: You see a woman you want from across the room. Do you approach her and: a) say hello and look forward to instigating a verbal exchange with her after which observe her verbal exchange? Or you: B) Introduce yourself, searching her directly in attention with a generous smile, and inform her that she "stuck your eye?" The exact solution is B, the direct method. Then you lead the verbal exchange along the route you need to move. Ask her questions on your own that require more than 1-phrase. Share yourself (sparingly), and don't dominate the verbal exchange with an excess of words. Instead, take it along the route you are maximum snug on. As the leader, be direct and unique with what you need. Have you ever requested a woman "What are you doing this weekend?" This query has a few answers, all of which are probably true, although some of which will probably get you nowhere. One solution should be: "I'm going out with five different people that aren't you." Because you didn't ask the query urgently enough. It's like telling a person you need to make "more money." Here's a fourth. Happy? It's flawlessly conducive to being direct and unique. Below you can see something I made up, referred to as the Confidence and Uniqueness Matrix. It indicates four extraordinary ways for you to invite a woman. The way that gets fine results is the quadrant in which you are maximum unique and maximum confident. The ability to state your desires simply and directly, to ask for what you want primarily is an act of leadership and a hallmark of strength. By far, the maximum attractive traits any man can have. Being direct is consistently the fine route you need. Being direct no longer means being unnatural or vulgar. Those are the movements of a clueless creep and beautiful painting with psychotic women and girls who "work". Neither one seems like a wonderful possibility for a long, significant relationship. 10: Not Working. (Becoming A Master With Women Is Worth Learning!) I want you to know now that to women, your beauty is primarily a completely extra extra in your behavior and intangible qualities, as it is miles beyond your physical looks or economic fulfillment. While these items contribute to perceived beauty, your other, finer qualities have a far greater impact on women. Sure, Brad Pitt looks and Bill Gates money don't hurt at all, however do you understand that before "Thelma and Louise" got here, Brad Pitt would say he "couldn't get a date" in Hollywood? While we're on the subject, have you ever seen a "typical handsome leading man" like Brad Pitt, Karl Urban or Eric Bana appear in a movie in which they performed a DWEEB? Bad hairstyle, past clothing, bad posture and an empathetic, anxious disposition turns a "hunk" into a "punk." The opposite is just as easy, as soon as you understand how. With my help, you can go from a dud to a stud quickly! And I've also trained hundreds of very "well-off" men (men who can come up with the money for private jets!) in my opinion who tell me they were "not perfect with women by any means." So cash is not the "magic pill" for increasing attraction, either. Inner qualities are honestly more triggers on a woman's fundamental attraction circuit than anything else. Behaviors, qualities, inner calm... These are all things you can learn. Sometimes, knowing these things takes a lot of effort to "undo" dangerous social conditioning, which is based on attitudes and hard beliefs that are prescribed in ancient beliefs, with the help of using the wrong people. It also has the pleasure of constantly having an eye-opening setting that pulls back the curtain on the nuances of human behavior. It also helps to catapult your fulfillment to greater heights than any other. It will take some time, and some real effort. The strength you gain - both internal and external - along with the help of using it to learn the secrets and techniques that can help you get what you want from women, makes the whole venture some distance really well worth it!
