Massage
In other countries, you may have heard or read stories about a massage therapy that is used to enhance men's sexual performance. It's true – there is such a massage, especially in Asia. It's called prostate massage therapy. For centuries, many Asian wives employed the services of monks or doctors to give their husbands prostate massages to ensure optimal sexual performance.
These days, prostate massage therapy is seen as more than just a sexual performance enhancing treatment. It is also considered an important practice for enhancing and maintaining prostate health. Prostate massage therapy is used these days to relieve symptoms of prostatitis and enlarged prostate glands and as a way to maintain good sexual and prostate health. Still, it's best to consult with a medical professional before deciding to undergo this type of therapy to determine if it's safe for you.
Just how is prostate massage performed? It is done by massaging the prostate in several ways, either internally or externally. Internally, a lubricated and gloved finger is inserted inside the man's anus and pressed against his prostate gland. Either a doctor, himself, or his partner can do this. The man administering this massage carefully probes for the prostate gland, which will feel like a small ball. The massage is performed by applying light pressure and releasing the pressure on different areas of the prostate. Prostatic fluid is released at the end of the man's penis when pressure is applied to the center of the gland.
An alternative to using a lubricated gloved finger is an internal prostate massager. This type of massager contains a lubricated part, which is inserted into the anus to massage the prostate.
Externally, a prostate massage is performed by applying gentle pressure to the perineum -- the area between a man's scrotum and anus -- using a finger. This pressure is applied along the entire length between the anus and scrotum for optimal massage benefits. An external prostate massaging device can also be used to do this. This therapy is also called prostate milking because doing so helps the prostatic fluid to flow out of the penis, which helps reduce prostate swelling by opening up channels in the gland. This type of massage helps improve erectile performance by improving the muscle tone of the pelvis.
One advantage of having this massage is that it can be administered in the comfort of one’s home. Still, it’s best to have a doctor’s clearance before doing so. Speaking of prostate massage devices, it’s important that one is able to get the real deal and not just repurposed dildos or other sex toys made to look like prostate massagers. One way to do this is to pay close attention to the packaging, specifically who the manufacturer or marketer is, before getting one. Internal prostate massagers, i.e. those inserted inside the anus, may or may not have vibrating functions. Because the prostate can be rather delicate, you don’t want to get an unsafe prostate massager that vibrates like a jackhammer, right? Right!
A good prostate massager is the sonic prostate massager, which has a sonic wave massage function to stimulate the prostate area, relax it, reduce inflammation and increase fluid and blood flow to the pelvic area, which can help treat erectile dysfunction. Other internal prostate massagers use nonsonic waves, i.e. vibrations, to massage and stimulate the prostate.
Instrumental prostate massagers are, as the name says, not inserted inside the anus. Men can use it while sitting down. They are made to massage a special place called the perineum.
Using such a device can certainly make it easier to massage the prostate to treat erectile dysfunction. Look for prostate massagers that offer a money-back guarantee as this is a sign of a quality device. Only a manufacturer that is supremely confident about the quality of their product will be kind enough to offer such a guarantee. And when you start using it for erectile dysfunction, be patient. The benefits of daily prostate massage take at least a few weeks to become apparent.
Counselling
Men, unlike women, find it difficult to talk through their problems. Often, they have difficulty even realising they have a problem in the first place, let alone talking about it with someone they care about. This is when it may be easier to talk to someone who is not close to you but has experience counselling people with sexual problems. Even if erectile dysfunction has a physical cause, it can often sap a man's sexual confidence. Maybe an unfortunate sexual encounter or encounters in the past are responsible for a lack of confidence that is causing problems in the here and now.
The thing with confidence is that it is so easy to lose and yet so difficult to regain. Sometimes it never returns. Talking with someone who is non-judgemental, insightful and a good listener can help you overcome your lack of confidence and start feeling good about yourself again. Sometimes just saying stuff out loud makes you let go of your capacity for anxiety, emotional pain and difficulty. Nothing is ever as bad as it is once it's out in the open and being talked about.
Acknowledging the problem goes a long way towards finding a solution, and counsellors are skilled in the art of drawing out your true feelings and helping you examine and analyse them. If your self-help methods are not successful in rebuilding your confidence, perhaps you need to seek the help of a counsellor. This should be someone you can connect with and feel comfortable with, due to the highly personal subject matter. Your doctor may be able to recommend someone suitable, or if you feel you can't discuss such intimate things with a complete stranger, there are many online counselling services available. Whichever type of counsellor you decide to use, check their credentials and ask to see testimonials, so you can set your mind at ease that they are qualified to help you, and have helped others with similar problems in the past.
Hypnotherapy
These days, people are trying hypnosis for all sorts of lifestyle problems – quitting smoking, losing weight, getting over a bereavement, fear of flying and sexual problems, among many others. Before you take this route, you need to be positive that this is what you want to do, and you also need to have faith in the ability of the hypnotherapist. In other words, you need an open mind and trust in your practitioner, because if you assume that hypnosis will do any good, you are setting yourself up for failure before you even try it. Hypnosis has proven successful for many people where other methods have failed, so it is worth a try.
The hypnotherapist can address all of the mental problems that are causing your erectile dysfunction, including lack of confidence and anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. It is likely that you will need several sessions before you notice any improvement, so be prepared for this, and don't expect a quick fix.
The hypnotherapist may use one or more techniques to help you, or a combination of several methods. Some may involve suggestions and instructions, while others may aim to address the underlying cause or causes of the problem. Make sure your chosen therapist discusses all of the available options, and the reasons why they may or may not work in your case. Sometimes treatment may involve delving into your subconscious mind - especially if there is no physical cause for your problem, and you can't figure out a concrete psychological or emotional cause. You need to realise that you may find yourself having to face things that have been buried – possibly for many years – and you need to be prepared to deal with what you may discover about yourself and other people during your treatment.
Some or all of the above strategies may be able to help you restore your confidence, to a point where you can consider intercourse without wondering if you will manage to get and maintain an erection. If you don't feel confident enough to help yourself, don't be afraid or embarrassed to call in the experts. Everyone needs help from someone at some stage in their lives, and you are no different. It is better to go for counselling or therapy than to live with erectile dysfunction.
